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What to Say When a Child Asks if Santa is Real

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December 16, 2016 by Katie T. Christiansen 3 Comments

As an adult it can be completely nerve-wracking to know what to say when a child asks, “Is Santa real?”

If you’re like me, you want to keep Christmas magical. 

My own parents always told me the truth about Santa, so I actually never grew up believing in Santa.

I do things differently with my own kids though, and I love to see how my own children look forward to seeing Santa. Their imaginations are fueled with the tales of his reindeer and how he climbs into everyone’s chimneys on Christmas Eve night.

They love making a list and baking his favorite Christmas cookies. In our house, it happens to be peanut butter blossoms. He eats them right up!

At the same time, I don’t want my children to look back and feel betrayed because I lied to them about who Santa Clause was when they finally asked me about him. I want my children to feel that they can come to me and I’ll be honest when they are looking for the truth.

 

What to say to a child who asks if Santa is real without lying or spoiling. Are your kids asking about Santa? Do you worry about what to say? Just tell them this! #preschool #prek #kindergarten #santa #believeinsanta

What to Say When Children Ask if Santa is Real!

I think I am extra sensitive about the subject because I was the child who ruined Christmas for other children…and it was completely by accident.

Remember how I said that I never grew up knowing about Santa. Well, I did not even know that other children thought differently.

I thought everyone was just pretending Santa was real.

Boy, was I wrong! Imagine my horror when I found out that other children actually believed in Santa!

Since that day I’ve vowed to make up for it, and my career as a preschool teacher gave me lots of opportunities to talk to children about jolly old Saint Nick and stick to that promise.

How to Talk to Children About Santa

Children have come to me asking questions about Santa for years. But to be completely truthful, the one question I always dreaded was, “Is Santa real?”

I mostly heard it from children with older siblings, or kids who befriended older kids.

Whenever that question came out, I froze up. I fumbled around, thinking about how I used to be that child who unintentionally spoiled Christmas for other children.

What if I said the wrong answer and ruined everything (again)? I couldn’t do that!

Then my own children started asking me about Santa.

It got really tricky because they knew the story of St. Nicholas, but it seemed like they were trying to convince us that Santa was definitely real.

After doing a bunch of research and asking around my trusted parent friends, I finally found an answer to this uncomfortable question.

The best part is that this answer keeps Santa magical, and there is no lying involved.

What to say to a child who asks if Santa is real without lying or spoiling. Are your kids asking about Santa? Do you worry about what to say? Just tell them this!

It seemed to me that when children ask if Santa is real, it is a time when they are starting to decide for themselves what the truth is.

They are gathering all the facts, and now they have some questions. This is the time to start helping children put the pieces together.

Maybe they’ve thought of the logistics and can’t quite figure out how he can get into everyone’s house, especially houses without chimneys.

How to Explain Santa Without Lying

So I’ll cut to the chase.

When our own children asked if Santa is real, we responded with this simple question.

What do you think?

Then we did something else really important too.

We became active listeners. Ultimately, I want to follow my children’s lead, and their answers give us the clues we need to talk about Santa.

Currently, my five-year-old son affirms that Santa is real. I see this as his way of showing us that he wants to get caught up in the magic and excitement of Santa for this time in his life. He’s not quite ready to stop believing…

Our daughter felt this way last year, but now she sees things a little differently.

What to say to children when they ask if Santa is real without lying or spoiling it.

She still enjoys all of the Santa outings that we do, but she is noticing some inconsistencies.

She has mentioned that Santa has flying reindeer. I’ve used that as an opportunity to sprinkle some more truth.

I asked, “What do you think about flying reindeer?”

Can reindeer really fly?

“What animals can you think of that fly?” I replied.

Then we talked about all of the flying animals we knew. Reindeer didn’t end up in the list.

The other night we were headed to a restaurant, and we unexpectedly saw Santa as we pulled up. My daughter squealed with delight when she spotted him.

Then as Santa was closer, she whispered to me,

Mom, that’s not Santa. He has the wrong beard.

I just nodded and giggled.

One day soon all of the pieces will fit together, and she will understand the answer to the question, “Is Santa real?”


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Katie has spent 17 combined years in the Early Childhood field as a teacher, preschool owner, and educational writer. She has worked in profit and non-profit programs, high-risk schools, and started an in-home preschool and outdoor collaborative preschool program. She adores being a mom to three children, and her youngest is currently in preschool.
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  1. Danielle Buckley says

    December 17, 2016 at 10:26 am

    Great post! We have a similar approach. 🙂

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    • Katie says

      December 18, 2016 at 10:58 pm

      Thanks, Danielle! I love hearing that you do something similar too!

      Reply
  2. Derek Swain says

    October 2, 2020 at 8:11 am

    I like that you mentioned how asking your child their thoughts about Santa Clause and actively listening to them can help you have a better conversation about Santa. My daughter still insists that Santa is real and wants to be able to tell him what she wants for Christmas this year, but she is worried that the kids in her kindergarten class might make fun of her for believing. Maybe I should find someone that can help her feel comfortable with believing that he is real.

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